Hi there! My name is Wynter, I’m 18, and I have a service dog! My current dog mainly performs psychiatric and alert tasks. If you’re wondering about my disabilities, I have both physical and mental ones. My service dog is the sole reason I can attend university, go out on my own, and live life as independently as possible. *Note: this was originally posted on another blog of mine, but I have since moved it here!
Today, I am going to teach you what not to do and what TO do around service dogs!
First things first – what exactly is a service dog? Well, according to the Americans with Disabilities Act, “A service animal means any dog (sometimes mini horse) that is individually trained to do work or perform tasks for the benefit of an individual with a disability, including a physical, sensory, psychiatric, intellectual, or other mental disability. “. So, basically, a service dog MUST be task trained to mitigate a disability. ESAs and Therapy dogs are NOT service animals, please see the below info-graphic.
PSA: To those “registering” their animals as service dogs/ESAs online, you’re getting scammed. There is NO registry for service animals (you only need a diagnosis) and for ESAs you only need a doctor’s note. NO SERVICE DOG / ESA REGISTRY WEBSITE IS LEGIT IN AMERICA! Please stop taking your untrained dogs in public, thank you.
Anyway…
Now that you know what a service dog is, let me tell you what NOT to do:
Do not make eye contact with the dog.
Do not talk, make noises at, or otherwise vocalise to the dog.
Do not scream “AW PUPPY” at us, please.
Please don’t even ask to pet our dogs, SD handlers really just want to grocery shop.
Do not ask us about our medical history.
Do not distract our dogs, this can be LIFE THREATENING!
Do not bring your pet/ESA into no-dog spaces, this is also life threatening to both me and my dog. Also, it is illegal to say your dog is a service animal when it is not.
No touch, interaction/talk, or eye contact.
What TO do:
Leave us be! Let us shop, pee, and eat in peace. If our dogs are off-duty and in a dog friendly area, feel free to ask! But please just let us work otherwise, especially if they are wearing gear.
Contrary to popular belief, most SD handlers don’t want to have to rely on our dogs to leave our houses, we do not want to have to deal with answering questions constantly every time we leave our houses.
Businesses: please learn the ADA laws, we would really appreciate it. You are only allowed to ask us two questions! “Is this a service dog?” and “What tasks is the dog trained to perform?”. That is IT! Also, service animals are not legally required to wear vests, have ID, papers, etc.
TLDR:
Do not interact with, touch, or talk to service dogs.
A slight clarification on where it says that it’s illegal to fraudulently claim a dog is a service animal: this depends on state and local laws. Although some states make it a misdemeanor, the Americans with Disabilities Act does not criminalize fakers, or anything else for that matter (it’s a civil rights law, which means its sole purpose is to guarantee rights).
So, as we all know, PayPal is the leading and falsely perceived to be “ONLY” available payment method online.
Now, let’s discuss, we’re familiar with Ko-fi.com it’s a website designed to cheer artists and send them monies so they can feel appreciated for all the hard work they put into their art.
If you look at it comparatively, it’s similar to StreamLabs where you donate to your favorite streamer.
Now, Ko-Fi doesn’t arbitrate donations, but they work with PayPal in order to handle these transactions. You’d think that PayPal would wisen up and do what StreamLabs did, where they started refusing chargebacks because of trolls and kids using mommy’s creditcard.
THE FUCKENING
Back track to April, I met a donator who was a really big fan and he decided he was gonna start donating, now, it wasn’t like this guy put off instant red flags, he started out small. $20 here…. $20 there… then he started building confidence and donating more. I thought nothing of it at the time because he and I developed a close relationship and spoke almost every day. He was by all definitions in society, a cool dude, I introduced him into my circle, I tried playing Video Games with him, all that jazz. He even said helping me realize my dream of having a computer good enough for 1080P streaming was his dream, he was generous. So the big boy donations started coming in, hundreds. Then came a point where he started talking to me less, said he had to take a break from all the spending and I told him “Okay! Just don’t be a stranger, I like talking to you!”
We always made it a point to be open about our expectations, next thing you know, we start having arguments, I’m no saint, I blew up on him often but it wasn’t over the top, it was very focused anger. As someone who struggles with anxiety, abandonment issues and a string of other traumas, I really don’t respond well to people pulling away from me and he didn’t either. BUT WE KNEW, WE SPOKE ABOUT IT BEFOREHAND. So it wasn’t a case of the crazies for sure.
Anyway, it’s now May and it looks like Him and I just can’t find a middle ground and he’s ignored me for two days straight after we had just figured out our differences and promised to communicate more.
BY THE WAY, I FEEL THE NEED TO ADD THAT HE WAS GENUINELY VERY KIND TO ME WHILE OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS ONGOING.
He wasn’t verbally abusive, or coercive but I started noticing behavior that really worried me when he would argue. Manipulative wording to make me fee guilty and for the most part, I actually conceded.
But yeah, near the end of May I decided to block him on every platform we spoke on, mainly discord and our game chats. I had forgotten I had him added on my Snapchat.
Not even a day passed between me blocking him and he tried a last ditch effort to reason with me on snapchat.
He sent me an entire essay on why he had acted the way he did and was using intrinsically manipulative language and blame shifting to make me feel unreasonable for having boundaries and expectations. It started to feel like he wanted way more from the relationship than he was willing to put in for in terms of communication.
I told him,”Nice excuse, but no.” And blocked him.
I thought that would be the end of it and I went back to bed, cos this dude texted me while it was 5 in the fucking morning. I wake up 2 hours later to my phone blowing up with email notifications from PayPal telling me that I was under review.
Eight. Separate.Fucking. Chargebacks.
SO MENTALLY I’M JUST LIKE,
Fuck.
This little ASSHOLE (because really there is no better word) decided to chargeback every large donation he ever made, and he was methodical too, he didn’t charge back all the tiny ones, no, just the big ones. He coulda fucked me all the way, but I assume he knew something I didn’t about PayPal and was skimming the system.
Anyway, I immediately look at my paypal account and am greeted with a negative account balance of $-854.30
Fuck. Me.
Now You bet your sweet ass cheeks I started getting evidence, screenshots from EVERYTHING. He disputed through his bank so I was already in hot fuckin water, but what PayPal did FAR impressed me more than what this little dick did.
I called 3 separate agents and they all took notes and added more and more to each case, they even SPECIFIED that these had been “donations” done through Ko-Fi.
This little motherfucker ran a complete fuckin’ friendly fraud.
He LIED to PayPal and said,
He was charging back for “upfront” costs I made him pay for a “Digital Painting” and that he never got what he was promised. Apparently, I refused to respond so he chose to escalate the dispute into a claim.
Because this can’t possibly get any worse,
He copied and pasted the same argument on EVERY dispute. Every single one, any normal person’s bullshit detector would’ve rang loud and would’ve asked him why he continued to make these payments, but he thought about that shit as well, going as far as to continue the lie by stating that he’d sat with me in drawing streams and I sent him progress pics.
This is where I get frustrated with PayPal because any self respecting and INTELLIGENT company would say at this point,”Alright, well provide proof that they sent you progress images or any communication.”
But no. They didn’t. I was tasked with providing all the evidence that I had indeed “delivered” his good. HE NEVER FUCKING BOUGHT ONE, SO HOW THE FUCK WOULD I PROVE I DELIVERED SOMETHING HE NEVER FUCKING BOUGHT?!
And the thing is, these knuckledragging monkeys don’t fucking know their asshole from their elbow. I guarantee not a single “specialist” reviewing my case knew what to do with my screenshots. They were our only source of communication from day one, and that still didn’t chime them in that the fucker never requested any fucking art.
Fun fact: I DONT TAKE PAYMENTS, I SEND INVOICES VIA PAYPAL. If you have EVER outright sent me money for a commission and I’ve let it pass, it’s because I’ve reversed searched your username to see if you’re a scammer. I’m paranoid as all FUCK when it comes to me accepting commissions, even moreso now that PayPal straight jammed a bar up my ass and played me like a muppet.
Back to the story though,
I kept in close contact with PayPal the entire time I was trying to solve this mess, on top of packing for a move because, guess what, I have a fucking life outside of the internet and I am currently moving into Section 8 housing cos my mother, who works full time, cant fucking afford to support 3 people NOT including myself.
On top of this, the sheer anxiety and blood pressure spike was enough to knock me on my fucking ASS. I literally passed out for a good 5 minutes before coming to and realizing this wasn’t a fucking dream. I fought hard, meanwhile, as this is going on, the little prick who did the chargebacks is still tormenting me via email, using shitty apologetic language and patronizing me, saying that he wouldn’t have done it had I just talked to him.
A few days pass, i took a day off work because I was so incapable of focusing on anything I couldn’t risk going to work and fucking something up put of anxiety.
I was at my best friend’s house when I finally heard back from the fistfuckers at PayPal.
The message read,”After reviewing your case carefully and taking all evidence provided into consideration, we have decided to side with the buyer.”
So he got a full refund and I got royally FUCKED by a company I’d been running my business with FOR 3 YEARS. I had NEVER had a chargeback on my account, NEVER. And all it took was a scumfuck pathological liar who knew how to verbally dance the system to take me down.
Not to mention PayPal slapped me with a chargeback fee after immediately closing my case.
They gave me no option to appeal the case and then I got some backhanded message from their outsourced customer service saying “they understood this was a frustrating ordeal and that this wasnt the outcome I hoped for but they did everything they could witin TOU.”
So now, I’m literally having to do commissions just to put my balance at 0.
This isn’t a scheme to make cash, I’m literally trying to just have my account be neutral again. So i can fucking close it.
FUCK PAYPAL. NEVER FUCKING USE THAT SHIT, AND IF YOU USE KO-FI, KEEP A CLOSE FUCKING EYE ON WHO DONATES TO YOU.
Pay Pal is literally trash, they have dodgy user agreements, they don’t respect sellers AT ALL, and their seller protection is a fucking scam and a half. Fuck Ebay, Fuck PayPal, and fuck this little shitstain for putting me in the ground.
If you’re someone who likes to donate to people, or give people money and then when shit hits the fan you do a chargeback? I hope you get fucked in the ass by everything you know and love. I am not a spiteful person, I am honest and above else straightforward.
When you do a chargeback you don’t just take your money back, you take a contwn creator’s livelihood away, you take away their drive and confidence im the industry. People have fucking KILLED THEMSELVES over shit like this, so if you’re a scumfuck who likes to play games like these I hope you get fucked, I hope you get fucked nice and hard by PayPal like I did, except you actually get karma. If you scam someone like this and they doxx you, you fucking deserve every ounce of hell that comes your way because you’re a piece of shit and if you wanna play with someone’s livelihood you don’t deserve equality you deserve JUSTICE.
Now I have to work double shifts at my irl job AND take commissions to make up for this BULLSHIT.
I fucking hate PayPal and the instant i neutralize my account I’m closing it and running my business off Amazon. I don’t give a fuck about convenience, cos if anyone REALLY wants my art they’ll do whatever it takes within reason, and Amazon Pay is faster and actually fucking seller friendly.
Fuck you PayPal.
And if you use PayPal, I have one piece of advice and I want to make it EXPLICITLY clear that this isn’t being said out of anything other than genuine will to protect fellow creators.
Never, ever, accept purchases on paypal made through credit cards, and don’t accept payments that dont come from Canada, US, France, Germany, UK or Certain parts of South America and AU. Every other country is either still pending Seller Protection rules or is considered a risk due to the ammount of scammers that live there.
Be paranoid as fuck, paypal is fucking trash and I hope they get shut down by all the new cash startups. Maybe eventually we’ll get a startup made by artists, for artists that protects against chargeback fraud.
Id give my fucking hair for something like that.
You buni is cool peeps and deserves better than this so if anyone can help em out please reach out yo
just a boy and a fairy walking ACROSS A MURDER IN THE MIDDLE OF SPACE TO MEET EACH OTHER and that’s why I like Chinese valentines day
please tell me more of this amazing tale
Basically, there is this old legend about a cow herder and his fairy wife who is the goddess of weaving colorful clouds or something like that. The queen of heaven went “This mortal is not cool enough to hang out with my daughter.” So she takes her fucking hairpin and carves a goddamn river which is the milky way to separate those two. The cow herder is absolutely devastated bc they have two children and he is now a single parent. Some magpies take pity on them and once a year on Chinese Valentine’s day they form a bridge via magpie bird powers, and the cow herder and his wife meet.
I know all of this bc I’m Chinese and had to do a school project. Also a murder is for crows, not magpies.
Thank you for sharing this poignant, classic tale with us.
also i’ve met magpies and they could make a murder if they really wanted to
Kal El…. is literally Hebrew. It means Voice of God. He’s a Jewish illegal immigrant. For a reason. He was written in the 30s.
I mean Superman was literally written as an allegory for first generation American Jews dealing with the struggle of assimilation vs maintaining traditional culture. The birth of Superman as a comic was essentially Jewish Immigrant history.
Not all heroes wear capes, but a hell of a lot of supervillains hire uniformed thugs to terrorize innocent civilians.
One of the many problems of the Menagerie arc is how even though Blake claims Menagerie is 2/3 desert and they can’t expand because the desert is more hostile with Grimm, we never actually see any Grimm in Menagerie. Not even with the attack of the Belladonna mansion are Grimm attracted to the negative emotions in Kuo Kuana. Honestly could you imagine how good it would’ve been to see the Faunus of the White Fang and Menagerie needing to work together because Grimm were invading? How it would influence Ghira and Blake’s speeches how the Faunus need to work together instead of Blake pointing to the fire she caused and calling it a group effort.
This is the Irish word for an ever-popular topic with which to make small talk in Ireland. Its earlier meaning, ‘time’, occurs in a proverb which translates as ‘time is a good storyteller’.
Aisling (ASH-ling) – Vision, dream, apparition.
This word is used of a popular eighteenth-century poetic genre in which Ireland appears to the poet in a vision in the form of a woman who speaks to him of the current state of the nation. The word is now popular as a personal name.
Aoibhneas (EEV-nass) – Bliss, delight.
This word generally refers to the joy we feel from external things such as music, song, scenery and good weather, and may be contrasted with áthas (AW-hass), which is joy arising from internal considerations.
Baile (BAL-yeh) – Place, home, homestead, farmstead, village, town.
This Irish word is probably the most commonly occurring term in Irish placenames and is usually anglicized as Bally.
Bean an tí (BAN-a-TEE) – The woman of the house.
Schoolchildren who lodge with families in Irish-speaking parts of Ireland quickly learn the centrality of this person in their life. Her counterpart, fear an tí (FAR-a-TEE) ‘the man of the house’, may also be encountered. Both terms can also be used to denote ‘the master of ceremonies’ at an event.
One of the uses made of this Irish word is in salutations, such as ‘your life and your health to you’. It also occurs in a surname meaning ‘a son of life’, one variant of which has given us the anglicized form Macbeth, as found in Shakespeare.
Blas (Bloss) – Taste, flavour, accent.
This Irish word is used in a proverb that translates as ‘a small amount is tasty’, a notion perhaps better suited to a country like Ireland than the concept that ‘bigger is better’. The word can also be used of speech – one says in Irish that there is a lovely flavour on a person’s speech if their accent is good.
Bó (Boe) – Cow.
The cow has been central to Irish rural life for many centuries and the Irish word for it occurs as an element in many place and river names. Looking up at the stars, the Milky Way is called ‘The Way of the White Cow’ in Irish.
Bua (BOO-a) – Victory, talent, virtue.
One of the sayings in which this Irish word is used may be translated as ‘Bring victory and a blessing!’, in other words, ‘Best wishes!’
Cara (KA-ra) – Friend.
This Irish word occurs in the quintessential way of addressing someone at the beginning of a letter – the formula may be simply translated as ‘O friend!’
Ceol (Kyol) – Music, song, vigour.
This word conjures not only music but the conviviality that is a central element to Irish life. The idiom ‘you are my music’ essentially means ‘Bravo!’
This word is used in the title of the Irish traditional musicians organization Comhaltas Ceoltóirí Éireann (COAL-tas KYOAL-tory AY-ran) ‘Association of Musicians of Ireland’, which is very often referred to, by way of a blend of the first two words, as Ceoltas (KYOAL-tas).
Although originally a borrowing from Middle English, this word has been borrowed back into the English of Ireland in its Irish-language spelling, and is felt to denote a uniquely Irish variety of boisterous fun.
Dáil (DAW-ill) – A coming together, a consultative gathering.
This word can denote a tryst or a meeting of various sorts but is best known now as the title of the principal chamber of the national parliament, Dáil Éireann (‘the Assembly of Ireland’) or simply the Dáil.
Dathúil (DA-hoo-il) – Good-looking.
This Irish word literally means ‘coloured’ or ‘colourful’, and is used to describe beauty and comeliness of appearance.
Dóchas (DOE-hass) – Hope.
This Irish word conjures a sense of trust, belief, confidence and optimism, and is used in the title of a number of Irish organizations and institutions.
Draíocht (DREE-oct) – Magic, enchantment.
This Irish word for magic once specifically denoted the secret lore and arts of the druids of pre-Christian Ireland and Celtic society.
This Irish word sums up what we are born with. One of the many proverbs in which it occurs translates as ‘instinct is stronger than upbringing’.
Éire (AY-ra) – Ireland.
The name of the country. The English form ‘Ireland’ derives from it and the poetic form ‘Erin’ is based on its dative and genitive forms Éirinn and Éireann. The land-goddess of the country had Éire as one of her names in medieval tradition, and writers represented Éire as one of three sisters, the others being Banbha (BAN-va) and Fódla (FOE-la), who also appear as personifications of the country, and are occasionally encountered in Modern Ireland in titles etc.
Fadó (Fodd-Oh) – Long ago.
This Irish word is used in a variety of phrases that can be used to begin a folktale, and corresponds to the English ‘Once upon a time’.
Feis (Fesh) – Feast, celebration.
Etymologically, this denotes the act of spending the night, especially with another person, hence ‘espousal’, and by extension was used of a festival held in honour of the marriage of a king, including symbolic marriage to the sovereignty goddess. The most famous of these in early Ireland was the feast of Tara. The word is now generally used with reference to festivals or competitions of music or dance.
Fios (Fiss) – Knowledge.
If you want to say you know something in Irish you say you have its knowledge, namely knowledge of it. If you leave out the ‘its’, the sense is ‘prophetic knowledge’. The word is used in the title of Geoffrey Keating’s monumental history of Ireland (1634), which translates as ‘A foundation of knowledge about Ireland’.
Flaithiúil or Flaithiúlach (Fla-hool, Fla-hool-ock) – Generous, princely.
This word, which is still often used in the English of Ireland, contains the element flaith ‘lord’, who in medieval times was expected to be munificent. Nowadays, generosity is not confined to the upper echelons, and it may be noted that Ireland was ranked the most generous country in Europe and fifth most generous in the world in the World Giving Index 2013.
Foinse (Fwin-sha) – Fountain, spring, source
This evocative word was used as the title of an Irishlanguage newspaper, which is currently only available online.
Gael (Gale) – An Irish person, a Scottish highlander
This word speaks to the shared heritage of Ireland and Scotland – and indeed to our more distant Celtic cousins, the Welsh, as the word itself is thought to derive from the Welsh word gwyddel ‘raider’, a sense which resonates with the fact that our patron saint, Patrick, was abducted as a slave from Britain in the fifth century.
Gaisce (GOSH-ka) Weapons, feat (of arms), bravado
This word is used as the title of the President’s Award, Ireland’s national challenge award earned by young people between 15 and 25 for participating in several activities, in which context it is best translated as ‘great achievement’.
Inis (IN-ish) – Island
No longer the common Irish word for ‘island’, this word survives mostly in names, such as Inis Fraoigh (‘Heathery Isle’, anglicized Inishfree), County Sligo, made famous by the poem ‘Lake Isle of Innisfree’ by William Butler Yeats. The word occurs also in the old appellation Inis Fáil, a poetic name for Ireland, a term that was used in a speech by US President Bill Clinton in Dublin in 1995.
Fáilte (FALL-tcha) – Welcome
This Irish word, originally meaning ‘joy, bliss, happiness’, occurs in a traditional salutation which translates as ‘a hundred thousand welcomes’.
Leannán (LAN-awn) – Lover
To say that love is blind in Irish, one says ‘a lover sees no fault’. This was one of the words used by the professional poetic class in medieval times to metaphorically describe their noble patrons.
Meitheal (MEH-hull) – Working party
This Irish word refers to the tradition of a group of neighbouring farmers coming together for a number of days to reap corn, pick potatoes, etc. No pay was involved but the recipient of the help was expected to provide hospitality.
This Irish word is still encountered in the English of Ireland. ‘They have great meas on him’, for instance, means ‘they have great regard for him’. It is also used in a formula for signing off a letter, namely Is mise le meas (ISS-MISHa-leh-MASS), which translates as ‘It is I, with respect’, and which may be seen occasionally in the letters pages of English language newspapers in Ireland.
This popular word occurs in a proverb meaning ‘The man of courage has never lost’, in other words, ‘fortune favours the brave’. The word itself seems to have the effect of adding encouragement to a conversation when introduced.
Muiceanach idir Dhá Sháile (MWICK-in-ock-idder-gaw-haw-lya) – A hog-backed hill between two arms of the sea.
This west of Ireland placename is impressive in both its original Irish form and in its anglicized dress, Muckanaghederdauhaulia, a form which appears in Georges Perec’s 1978 novel, La Vie mode d’emploi (the English translation is entitled Life, A User’s Manual), where it is visited and painted by the hero, who believes it to be the longest port name in the world.
This word speaks to an element of Irish culture that goes back a long time. It occurs in the title of an eighteenth-century poem which was set to music by the famous harper Turlough O’Carolan and translated by Jonathon Swift as ‘O’Rourke’s Feast’. It begins: O’Rourke’s noble fare / Will ne’er be forgot / By those who were there / And those who were not.
This is the art of flattery, Irish style. It may sometimes involve empty praise but it’s still nice to be on the receiving end of it.
Saoi (SEE) – Wise and learned person
Though this word is rightly reserved for the more eminent among us, a proverb reminds us that a saoi is not wont to be without fault, or, to put it another way, ‘Homer sometimes nods.’
Saoirse (SEER-sha) – Freedom, liberty
This word, which expresses a noble idea, originally referred to the privileges enjoyed by the nobility. Nowadays, it is an ideal sought after and expected by everyone and has become popular as a first name.
Scéal (Shkayle) – Story, account, narrative, tale, piece of news, state of affairs
Storytelling – scéalaíocht (SHKAYLE-ee-ockt) – is an art that has always been appreciated in Ireland. Long-windedness, however, is not, and there are several intriguing ways that describe narratives that suffer from this ailment, one example being ‘the story of the eight-legged dog’.
Sceitimíní (SKETCH-a-meeny) – Excited feelings, fits of rapturous excitement
If you are really excited in Irish, you say that these are on you!
This Irish word can be used in various ways when making a toast, one of which is simply to exclaim Sláinte!
Slán(SLAWN) – Health, soundness; healthy, safe
This Irish word can be used in various ways when saying goodbye to someone. One may simply exclaim Slán!, or Slán agus beannacht! (Slawn OGG-uss BAN-ockt), which means ‘farewell and a blessing’.
Sona (SUN-a) – Happy, lucky, fortunate
The primary sense of this word is ‘happy’ and may be used, for instance, in wishing someone a happy birthday. Its less dominant sense is found in a proverb indicating that luck is largely a matter of opportunity and may be translated as ‘the lucky man waits for the lucky moment.’
This popular Irish word encapsulates the sense of serenity that is much striven for in modern life.
Taisce (TASH-ka) – Store, treasure, hoard
This Irish word can be used as a term of endearment, as in A thaisce! (a-HASH-ka), meaning ‘My darling!’. It is also used with the definite article, i.e. An Taisce (un-TASH-ka), as the title for the National Trust for Ireland, an NGO with a public interest mandate relating to the environment.
Taoiseach (TEE-shock) – Leader, chief, ruler, prime minister
In origin, an adjective meaning ‘first’, it came to denote a chieftain in medieval times. Nowadays, it is used exclusively as the title of the Irish prime minister.
Uachtarán (OOK-ter-awn) – President
This word contains the element meaning ‘cream’, that which rises to the top.
Uisce (ISH-ka) – Water
Something which seems to fall from the sky endlessly in Ireland. Naturally, it has captured the Irish imagination. Its flowing underground has given rise to a metaphorical term for ‘intrigue’. Uisce beatha, ‘the water of life’, was originally anglicized to usquebaugh and variants thereof, and later shortened to ‘whiskey’.
I hate when men smirk and gloat and say shit like “Women are attracted to powerful men,” like that negates any feminist impulse, like they think that at the heart of all women is this little, mincing girl that wants to be dominated.
I just roll my eyes because, dude. If you ever read the second half of any fucking harlequin novel ever, and saw how the hero always ends up blubbering on his knees and saying shit like “I can’t live without you! You unman me!” you’d realize that being attracted to powerful men is just the first part of a two-step plan.
The second step is to completely fucking annihilate him.
Apparently this is the most important thing I’ll ever say.
*clears throat* Allow me to quote Jayne Ann Krentz:
“In the romance novels … the woman always wins. With courage, intelligence, and gentleness she brings the most dangerous creature on earth, the human male, to his knees. More than that, she forces him to acknowledge her power as a woman.” (“Introduction” from Dangerous Men and Adventurous Women: Romance Writers on the Appeal of Romance.)
The romance hero may start as a total alphahole, but by the end of the novel, as stated above, HE HAS TO CHANGE. He needs to become respectful and treat the heroine as an equal partner, otherwise it won’t work. This is why Elizabeth Bennet refuses Mr Darcy the first time but accepts him later. This is what so many people miss. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this post.
people who say things like this have never seen a hallmark movie and it shows